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Friday
Apr152011

Favorites on Friday -- puppy breath

I warned everyone on my personal Facebook earlier this week that I would soon become one of those people. The kind who inundate you with photos of their pets and updates on every naughty little thing they do and general big-eyed photographic adorableness, because we just got word early Wednesday morning that on a farm near Harrisburg, our puppy had been born. I have been waiting for this like a pregnancy, since the loss of our beloved Jonah in January. There has been no time in my life that I have been without a Newf for this long, and it has left such a hole in our family. It seemed serendipitous that we found a farm called Opening Heavens Doors, with lots of kids, fainting goats and in-house Newfs that are bred but are pets/members of the family first. That they were expecting puppies this spring, when our grief might not be so fresh, seemed perfect. And now he's here. 

So prepare, blog followers, Facebook friends, and Twitter fans to be inundated with puppy updates and photos as though we have just had a fourth, very hairy kid.

 

LOOK AT THIS. Two days old, the most beautiful little bruiser and already loaded with Newfy smoochiness. 

 

Sometime in early June, hopefully in time for J's birthday, he will come home to our family, for a lifetime of couch lounging, pond-mucking, nature walking, and ridiculous canine spoilage. 

 

The Name...

We're in the process of choosing a name. In order to narrow it down, we decided to stick with the Biblical. Not because we're so churchy, but because his predecessor was Jonah.

 

Feel free to vote by leaving a comment either here or on my Facebook author page for the best name:

 

1.) Sampson-- Hayden actually picked this out years ago, saying one day he would like to have a Newf puppy named Sampson, and how it would be so appropriate since he would be hairy and strong. Drawback--the natural nickname for this is also the name of one of Hayden's buddies/hockey teammates.

 

2.) Levi -- because that's what that hot, nude hummin' and drummin' Matthew McConaughey named his kid. 

And also, a great nickname would be The General Lee. If you know us, well, you know the Hoffmans love us some nicknames. I can't count how many variations on the woman's name Margaret our son Max answers to--Maggie, Marge, Marjene, Marjorie... Bring on your ridiculous gender-bender nail polish controversy J. Crew

 

3.) Noah -- we were all originally drawn to this because of its similar consonants and sounds to Jonah. And because as a water rescue dog, a Newf could save you in a flood. But there are obvious drawbacks, like the fact that the first syllable sounds exactly like a word I might scream if I saw one of my boys chasing the other with the pneumatic nail gun. (This never happens.)

 

So bring it on--I want to hear your vote! And prepare yourselves, do whatever you need to do, block me from your feed, unfriend me, or if you want more, SUBSCRIBE, because the level of puppy cuteness around here is about to get downright silly. 

 

 

Monday
Jan172011

Monday Musing--Coming Home

“There's nothing half so pleasant as coming home again.”

-Margaret Elizabeth Sangster

 

We'll leave the light on for you...

I consider it a good sign that whenever we travel, even when we have had more than two decadent weeks in the Caribbean feasting on fresh lobster, conch and just-caught tuna, snorkeling and surfing and beachcombing, playing with cousins and making new friends, we are excited to come home. With the book tour and our winter vacation, we have been on the road plenty this year, but with homeschooling, we've also been using our home base, our classroom in the loft more. Home to my kids means ritual and familiar, means their usual foods, all of their recently acquired Christmas presents, their giant bins of Legos and art supplies, and their animals...

Saturday night, the car got quiet the last mile home from the airport. New snow had fallen--no paw prints to show the footwork of Jonah's last frolic. There was no exuberant, slobbery barking dog to greet us. For the first time in ten years, there was no Jonah to welcome us home.

Inside, the house was spotless. The three cats weaved anxiously and the youngest, Atticus, looked at us reproachfully as if to say, "You have no idea the shit that went down when you guys were gone." There were flowers and a note--a friend had left dinner in the fridge and a lovely card, chocolate in the cupboard. On the counter: Jonah's collar and brushes. J quickly carried them downstairs; everyone, human and feline, pricked up at the telltale, familiar jingle of Jonah's dog tags clinking together.

We heated the dinner and afterwards, I said reflexively, "Boys, clear your places, put your bowls down for--"before I stopped myself. It was the first time in my life that there hasn't been a dog hanging out by the table, waiting to clean the dishes.

After dinner, Hayden got his blanket and curled up on Jonah's big bed by the fireplace; he spent the night there. 

 

Moving on. Two days later, we are home, settled, 30% unpacked. There are good things happening too. I spent all of Sunday putting the final touches on my second novel and sending it off. We already have two playdates, three hockey games and a clinic under our belts, not to mention hours of fun on our finally-frozen backyard rink:

 "Eau du Joe" can still be found if you bury your nose in the throw pillows of the couch, and I already notice less hair overall, but without his cleaning assistance, more crumbs. As I write this, three deer walk boldly into our yard, sniff around to see if there is anything for them to nibble, no watchdog to keep them away.

It still feels like someone is missing. Bittersweet, but happy to be home.

 


  

Above: Hayden skating in to score

 


 



Monday
Jan102011

Monday Musing--Jonah Jones Hoffman, 2001-2011

On Saturday night we received the heartbreaking news that Jonah, our beloved dog of nearly a decade had died. Despite the efforts of our petsitter and dear friend Beth, Jonah suffered canine bloat. This is typical of larger breeds, and the risk factors increase in older dogs. Jonah was a Newfoundland, weighing in at 175 and just a month shy of his tenth birthday, so while we knew that big dogs=big hearts and shorter life spans, this day was not so so far off, we didn't expect it now. The heartbreak is compounded by our not being there to see him out, to love him as he went and thank him for being the perfect family dog. I don't look forward to going home at the end of the week and seeing his footprints in the snow he loved to frolic in, but no slobbery, exuberant Joey greeting. 

Today's musings are photos and words in honor of Jonah. 

 

BABY YEARS

Jonah came to us from a farm in South Dakota at eight weeks old, already tipping the scale at a whopping twenty-eight pounds. I remember flying back with him at my feet in an undersized cat carrier, the worst turbulence I've ever experienced in a tiny prop plane. I was five queasy months pregnant with our first son, bent over trying to soothe him as the poor puppy threw up all over himself and my shoes. On a layover in Ohio, I bathed him in the airport restroom sink and fluffed him up with the automatic hand dryer in anticipation of meeting his father and his furry canine brother, Dakota, my Newf of nine years.

Although I have many memories of Joey's puppy months, like our month at the shore where he used his lower jaw as a shovel to ingest as much sand and shells as possible, this blurry photo (LEFT) is the one of the only I have of our early months. This is in part because he was quickly eclipsed by the arrival of our son Hayden and all his medical challenges and long stays at the hospital. Fortunately, Jonah had the distraction of harassing Dakota. The puppy that we thought would bring so much life back to our beloved elderstatesman ended up being a torment and Dakota often rolled his long-suffering eyes at me like, "What have you done with my golden years?" Still, in typical Newfy tolerance and patience, Dakota took Joey under his wing and trained him in the ways of being our family's dog. 

 

We ended up with three male Newfs during Hayden's first year; my father's Big Dog (aka "Piggy) came to live with us as well. The white satin edges of Hayden's baby bassinet were quickly a dingy brown from where these fellows rested their jowls and gazed in adoringly on their baby. The lone time I tried sleep training, tried to let Hayden 'cry it out', I had three dogs anxiously herding me to the bassinet like, "LADY! You can't hear the baby crying?!"

Hayden adored his dogs. "Guh", accompanied by an emphatic slapping of thigh, the ASL sign for dog, was his first word.

Meanwhile, Jonah was taking his Newfy training seriously, learning about from Dakota about the important sense of entitlement. Dakota had already staked his claim on the leather couches, so for Jonah, this meant leaping up to sleep between us at night. I love the photo, taken after Hayden returned from a surgery (BELOW), because it reminds me of a time when "family bed" had a whole new meaning.

 As he grew, I worried that Jonah's bed-leaping was dangerous. A 175 lb dog landing on a child could be tragic, but Jonah always knew exactly where his baby was and as the years went by, he understood that his human siblings slept up between us now; he took his place stretched out at the foot, warming our feet. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In 2003, Big Dog moved to Costa Rica with my father and we lost Dakota--big dog, big heart. We also moved out of the house on Alnwick that both boys first called home and prepared to build our future home on a lot with some land and a stream and pond for mucking. Our Christmas card that year (bottom right) was Jonah and Hayden, pictured down by that stream.

 

We were also expecting a baby, another little brother for them both. Not long after Max was born, we moved into our new house and Jonah stopped climbing stairs, where the master bed is. He quickly found someone to keep him company at night on the main floor:

These were the years when we watched a lot of "Teletubbies", the PBS show with the vacuum- character called the Noo-Noo, who had a long nose hose attachment for cleaning up messes. 

We called Jonah our Noo-Noo for his ability to lie just under the baby chair or kids' table and get a full meal out of whatever fell. I love this photo of Max gleefully spoon-feeding Joey:

Jonah was also clever enough to take advantage of his height--just right to nose up to an outdoor table. In the photo below, you see we are all distracted with the blissful image of GG holding our brand new baby Piper at a Mother's Day brunch. What you might not notice is that behind her, Jonah is making his way toward the spread: plates of bacon and waffles. 

 

At every party and outdoor BBQ, friends and family learned one of the cardinal rules of the Hoffman house:

NEVER LEAVE YOUR PLATE UNATTENDED.

 

Lord Byron said this about his Newfoundland Boatswain:

Beauty without Vanity,
Strength without Insolence,
Courage without Ferocity,
And all the Virtues of Man without his Vices. 

 

 

JONAH'S TOLERANCE

Typical of Newfies, Jonah exhibited endless patience. He put up with kids coming over who thought he was a pony and they could ride him. He didn't mind the goats and their antics, or the kittens and their tail swatting, and he let our babies crawl all over him, mauling him and poke-poking his paws.

 

But even a Newf's tolerance was put to the test when we brought home Sophie, a kitten who immediately claimed her as "his". The first time I came home and saw them out in the yard, Jonah stretched out with Sophie sprawled across his front paws, I thought he had killed her, worried how I was going to hustle the kids past this brutal scene. But then they both picked up their heads, and went right back to canoodling, Sophie rubbing under his chin gratefully. 

(I worry about Sophie wonder how she is taking the loss of her constant couch companion.)

When Sophie's kittens were born, Jonah became nanny, flicking his tail over the couch for them to attack, all while feigning disinterest. 

 

JONAH THE WATCHDOG

With his massive size and manly bark, Jonah could certainly intimidate and there was many a deliveryman who laid on his horn rather than get out and face a dog like Joe. But many friends have stories of coming by to drop off items and being met with nothing more than a snore from the couch or at best a raised eyebrow and tail thumping welcome. What I mean by watchdog is that Jonah took care to watch out for his children, endlessly. Wherever they went, he went also. Out by the trampoline? He'd lie down at the ladder, barking if things got too rough. On walks he was careful to gently herd them away from pond and road.

  It is little wonder that the original Nana in Peter Pan was a Newfoundland, not a St. Bernard as portrayed by Walt Disney.

 

 

 

 

To Hayden, Max and Piper, Jonah was simply ubiquitous, a constant on walks and swims, fishing trips and sledding, ever-present and watchful of his children. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

JONAH AS PILLOW

(LEFT) Jon and Piper show off the outdoor-on-a-cold-day-in-early-spring version of the Jonah Pillow and (RIGHT) our friend Ben demonstrates the indoor, full-body model.

 

 

 

 

JONAH'S GOOD LOOKS AND OVERALL REGAL NATURE

 With his lion-like head, glossy coat, size and excellent conformation, Jonah exemplified the physical traits of the Newfoundland.

He loved water, especially wading and drinking from the pond or stream. This gave his breath an uncanny, fishy smell. Jon often called it "Seafood Surprise".

It could be so bad that once, one of Piper's sensitive-sniffered playmates caught a whiff and promptly threw up.

 Jonah was also slobbery and sheddy, and tracked in water and mud. In the winter, he loved the snow, would spend hours out rolling in it or just cooling himself on a snowdrift. The photo below is the one I send to people whenever they tell me they want a dog just like ours. 

I remind them that this comes to your door all winter long and asks with soulful brown eyes to be let in. So you get towels and mats, and go to work on him, making sure to get the ice balls out from between his webbed toes, only to have him barking to go out in it again five minutes later. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Newfs are truly a labor of love, but nobody can deny their inherent beauty, and Jonah, more than any Newf, exemplified the classic, regal nature of the breed.  

 

 

JONAH'S LOYALTY

It is true that Jonah was handsome, gentle and warm to cuddle with, that he loved and was ever vigilant of his children and his beloved feline Sophie, that he was tolerant of the goats and the other cats and children, but there has never been any question about whose Jonah was:

 

Just as Dakota was my dog, the dog who went to college and Spain and the Caribbean with me, whose spoiled baby status and naughtiness was unparalleled, Jonah has been Jonathan's from the beginning. Jonah loved us all, but Jonathan was his person.

He waited every day for Jon to come home and then was never farther than a few feet from him, often lolling his head lovingly in his favorite human's lap. He loved hanging out around the table or grill for spoiling and treats, and following Jon around the property and flopping at his feet, exposing his belly for a good rubbing.

I think sometimes about how Jonah cared for us during the workdays, the way he was so vigilant with the children, keeping them in line and safe, how he always kept me company on walks and gardening. I wonder if this was him trying to be a stand-in for Jon, taking care of his family, to make his master proud. 

 

 

 

FINALLY...

This final photo is one of my favorites, taken last month by our friend Beth. It was dawn, one of Jonah's many walkabouts up through the fields to visit her dog, his best canine friend, Heike. Beth was the one who tried to revive Jonah, to keep him with us a little longer, and when she couldn't do that, she wrapped him in a blanket, and stroked his head and said goodbye with five kisses, one for each of us. 

Jonah, you are missed by many. 

 

 

"The average dog has one request to all humankind. Love me." --Helen Exley

 

 



 



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